Baby boy arrived at 6:15PM on December 4, 2019. We knew that he would go straight to the NICU (neonatal intensive care unit) because he was born at 34 weeks. We hoped that he wouldn’t need a long stay but there was no way of knowing exactly. All the doctors told us that most babies go home by their due date and his was January 15.
I was confined to my bed for the first 18 hours so I wasn’t able to see him. My husband was running back and forth from me, to baby, to our 18 month at home. Once I was finally able to see him, I was so happy.
Jaundice & More…
Lincoln started off on CPAP but by day 2, he was just on oxygen then eventually air flow. He needed a feeding tube because he wasn’t strong enough to latch on to me or drink from a bottle. He also had jaundice, so they wanted him to stay under the light rather than being held. It was so hard to see.
Once I was released from the hospital, I was driving back and forth from the hospital and back home. My heart wanted to be with him in the hospital but my heart also missed my 18 month old. I was already away from him for almost 3 weeks during my hospital stay.
“Feeder & Grower”
Lincoln was considered a “feeder and grower”. He was just in the hospital to learn how to feed and to grow. It was so difficult for us because we wanted him at home. We fought hard for him and I advocated for us and we were able to stay 2 nights in the hospital in a transition room. They said if he gained weight and took 80% of his feeds, we could take him home. I worked with him SO hard and on Christmas Eve, we were finally able to bring him home. He spent a total of 20 days in the NICU.
Being a preemie mom and NICU mom is hard. If my husband and I didn’t have a strong marriage going into it, I don’t know if we would have made it. I’m so glad I had his support though during this time.